I just got reminded why it's so uncomfortable to eat with people you haven't seen in a long time, after getting free from an eating disorder. Why is it that you always get comments like "oh, you're eating so well" and "wow you eat so much more than the last time I saw you" or "you would definitely not have eaten that 6 months ago"?
One thing that I find the most irritating is when people comment on how my eating has changed. I mean, I've gained 10kg since the last time you saw me, what did you expect? Now I'm not saying that no one's allowed to compliment me on how well I'm doing or how far I've come. But it's a whole other thing to do that and to say these awkward "I didn't expect you to eat this much" comments. Because even though I'm able to enjoy my meal and eat normally, I'm still struggling and I'm still going through a phase where it's an active choice to eat and to be healthy.
And that's a thing that goes for everyone with an eating disorder, no matter how deep they're in it. Actually for anyone with even the smallest complex. So please skip those comments, even if you mean well.
Also, if we keep commenting on what happened 6 months ago (not with just food, but anything) we don't give each other space to grow and go forward. Sometimes I wonder if I'll always be seen for my eating disorders and if I'll always be checked on during dinner or if I'll always get worried faces if I need to use the toilet right after dinner.