Why are you having a C-section instead of giving birth naturally?
This question just SPAMMED my DMs after I wrote that I'm having a scheduled C-section in May. I don't quite understand why it's such a schocker for people to not give birth naturally. In Stockholm they have over one scheduled C-section per hour, which is quite a lot (and means it's quite normal nowadays). Anyways, my reason for having a C-section is more medical than anything else, but I still think everyone should be able to give birth naturally or have a C-section without having to explain themselves. I honestly don't know which one I would do if it wouldn't be for my body! Some people have such beautiful experiences while giving birth (naturally) while others are in pain for over 24 hours. It's tricky!
My reason for not giving birth naturally is that my I'm both very tiny over all (short, not big hips and other essential things for giving birth) and then on top of that my weight is still under a recommended weight after my eating disorders. Which makes it more dangerous to give birth naturally than to do a C-section.
I find it super interesting to discuss these things and why some give birth naturally while others never would do it, but when people just write angry messages, like having a C-section is a crime, it's just not okay. So please try to stay kind even though you have your opinion! Some people just can't give birth naturally. And others don't want to. Both are okay.
Are you nervous about giving birth/having a C-section?
Hmm no, not that much. Of course something can always go wrong and I have some small concerns, but nothing major that would give me panic (yet haha). I think I'm more nervous about being pregnant actually. It's a constant worry for me wether anything should happen etc. But I'm so excited to meet the baby. It's still 5 months left but I'm already overwhelmed with happiness just thinking about how it will feel to hold the baby for the first time.
How did you find out about the LDS church? And can you make a blog post about it someday? :) What are your main beliefs?
My husband has grown up as a member of the church - when we met he didn't talk about it a lot because he was worried I would feel pressured to go to church with him or something like that. I have always been interested in religions but I hadn't found the right church (until now), so I've never been active in any church before this. When I met my husband I asked him to take me to church with him. And I remember the first time I visited The Church Of Jesus Christ Of Latter Day Saints, I felt such happiness and peace, it was one of my best experiences ever. After that I started reading The Book of Mormon and always asked my husband about everything that I had thoughts about. The Book of Mormon and the church over all has given me so much joy, happiness and peace in life. I went to church for about half a year before I got baptized.
I got so many questions about our main beliefs and how being a member shows in our everyday life. I'll have to start by saying that I'm so happy to be able to have all this in my life, especially now that we're starting our own family. The main thing about church that you can see in a member's everyday life is the love for their families. This was at least my first thought when I started going to church but wasn't a member yet. Family comes first. And to actually feel that in my marriage and now that we're having a baby, is sometimes so overwhelming because I never thought I'd be lucky enough to have a family of my own with this much love and understanding. My husband is everything and he will be such a great dad!
So as a member of the church we believe that families can be together for all eternity. When you get sealed in the temple you're sealed to eternal marriage. <3 Not only until death do us apart. And then other things that show in our everyday life is that we don't drink alcohol or coffee.
What language are you gonna teach your child?
Well at home we're gonna speak Swedish, since it's both me and my husband's main language. Then we'll probably speak some English as well, so the child can get a good grip on that from the start. My husband also speaks Chinese and says he's gonna teach our child that as well, but I know exactly zero Chinese so I don't think that will be a thing when we're all together haha. And then she/he will learn Finnish since there's many Finnish speaking family members from my husband's side!
Do you ever feel to young to have a baby?
No. But now I want to point out that I don't recommend having children at a very young age, exactly as I don't recommend getting married super young, if you're not ready. Being 19 is being in this age where people have totally different life situations. Most of my friends are just starting their studies, still live with their parents and are not even close to thinking about having a family of their own. But for me it's always been different, I started working when I was 12 and right now this is where I am in my life and what I feel most comfortable with, to start a family. And for me I'm not too young since I've already done and experienced every possible thing before starting a family and I'm mentally in a place where raising a child feels right. And for some people this comes when they're 19, for some when they're 29 and for some never (if they don't want children etc). The most important thing is to listen to yourself, not let other people's decisions or lives change your opinions and who you are. Point being: DO YOU.