Hi, I love your blog! I was wondering if you and your husband fight a lot? Me and my boyfriend seem to fight everyday...
I got this DM yesterday and thought I’d answer it here on the blog. First of all, hi love & thank you for your message!
The answer is no, we don’t fight a lot. As a matter of fact, we almost never fight. We have these periods of irritation that can last for some days, but the irritation is not because of the other half, it’s because we’re both stressed out and have a lot to do. And since we know that, we don’t get upset and start arguing over things. Instead we just go order some pizza and watch a movie and let the irritation pass. Obviously we’re not always of the same opinion and we do have conflicts but there’s a big difference between having an argument and a conflict.
I know that some people tend to fight a lot and some combination of personalities just make it easier to fight than others. But the thing is, if you’re in a relationship where all you do is fight, none of you are moving forward. It takes SO much energy, time and effort to constantly nag and be mad. And trying to find reasons to be mad at each other. If you’re with someone that doesn’t want to bring the best in you out, I don’t really see a healthy relationship in any near future with that person. If you can have good and mature conversations (when it comes to conflicts) instead of fights where you call each other names and say things you’ll regret, that’s good. But if you do feel that it’s more yelling than talking, more mean words than reasonable arguments etc - you should maybe start thinking about the option to break up.
I honestly believe and think that when it’s true love you don’t want to hurt each other. True love doesn’t yell mean words or slam doors every day. OF COURSE we all have bad days. But the bad days should be an exception, not the rule.
Big love. <3